Do You Need To Be Needed?

Being ‘nice’ all the time, especially when you inherently enjoy helping others, can be a draining personality trait.

So ask yourself: Do I NEED to be needed?

The awareness to develop: ‘Is this an authentic offer to help? Or am I coming from needing to be liked? Am I doing this out of external expectations of me?

If one needs to be needed then a codependency quickly forms between you (the helper) and those ‘needing’ to be helped.

Essentially I’m talking about the ‘victim’/‘rescuer’ dynamic playing out here. It’s an unhealthy game where no one truly benefits. It’s an unconscious pattern running rampant. At its essence, it is an exchange of fear.

Authentic offerings of help should feel inspiring, replenishing and serving your highest truth. If you’re buying in to others ‘poor me’ stories you’re going to create your own ‘poor me’ story. Also, if you’re projecting ‘poor me’ stories on to others so they ‘need’ you, you’re definitely NOT helping.

Be honest with yourself first. If you’re not inspired to help and serve in that moment, then don’t....because THEN you’re actually of service. The transmission of self love and self respect is the most potent way to help any person.

My recommendation - help yourself till your overflowing. Then you’re primed to actually help others, not because you need to, it’s because you want to and you can.

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